“Now I used to think that I was cool
Running around on fossil fuel
Until I saw what I was doin’
Was driving down the road to ruin.”

From the song ‘Traffic Jam’ by James Taylor

I drove too much this weekend. I took about 8 separate trips to run errands that could have been consolidated into one had I done a little planning. Not to mention a glorious drive to the beach at Half Moon Bay. I don’t feel guilty about the trip to Half Moon Bay because it brought so much pleasure to my family. However, I do feel guilty about the 8 trips to the store.

For this week’s Monday Mitzvah let’s work on taking the road less traveled and drive less. With the price of gas these days this good deed not only helps the world but also our wallets. We all know we should drive less but how many of us really do. Driving is somewhat of an addiction. It is easy, fun and makes us feel powerful.  Riding a bike to the store just doesn’t have the same kind of thrill.

To help you deal with automobile withdrawal is an organization called Autoholics Anonymous.  They offer support to “recovering autoholics to guide you on your path to finding your two feet again.”  I need this program! I could easily walk to the store if I planned properly.  I know “there is a power greater than me” that can help me get over my car addiction. However, I need to start with baby steps.

Autoholics Anonymous offers a 12 Step program to help you deal with your car addiction. I have 5 simple suggestions to help us get started:

1. Consolidate Car Trips: Plan out your weekly errands and do them all in one or two trips.
2. Coordinate a Carpool: Find a friend in the neighborhood who has the same errands and double up. It will be more fun and you will save time and money.
3. Bust out the Bike: Dust off your bike, throw on a backpack and pedal your way to a neighborhood market for your supplies. It is good for the environment and good for your soul
4. Go for a Goal: It is hard to achieve objectives without having a goal. For example, only allow yourself to fill up your gas tank twice a month. If that is your goal, you will think twice about taking all those extra trips to the store.
5. Forget the Freeway; Take the Information Highway: The internet is one of our best tools for helping the environment. You can avoid many trips to the mall and the store by shopping online. Negotiate an arrangement with your work to telecommute one day a week. Hold meetings via conference call or web instead of in person.

What techniques have you used to cut down the amount you drive?

“Everybody likes a compliment” Abraham Lincoln

For the last two months I have had an obsession. There is an ugly, dry patch of dirt in front of my house that I have been determined to make bloom. I performed a guerrilla gardening mission on my own property. However, it did not immediately take. From my front window I could see big black crows picking the seeds from the ground and it seemed like every morning there was a new mole hole. The ground had so many lumps that it looked like there was subterranean mole condo complex.

My water tolerant wildflower garden has been a Zen exercise for me. There is no way to speed up the growth and there is no way to guarantee a blossom. I have had to patiently protect and nurture the little buds as best as possible and hope for the best.

Today as I was conducting my morning ritual of examining my little plot to see if there was any progress overnight, one of my neighbors, who is not exactly the friendliest woman in the world, stopped to talk to me. In the four years I have lived near her, we have probably had only one or two brief conversations. She generally avoids eye contact on her daily walks down the street. Today was different. She stopped next to me, looked me in the eye and said, “Your garden is really coming along.” My heart swelled with delight. With that one little compliment she totally made my day. That was the end of our conversation but that was all it needed to be. I felt honored, acknowledged and appreciated. She gave me a gift.

For our Monday Mitzvah this week let’s do a true guerrilla good deed and give someone a sincere compliment. Take a moment to appreciate something positive about someone. The best kind of compliment is like the one my neighbor gave me. It is a compliment that is based on something personally meaningful to the recipient. A compliment about something superficial such as looks or something about which the person doesn’t have any control is less meaningful. Step outside of yourself and notice what is important to those around you. By simply acknowledging what is true and important to someone you will deepen relationships, bring happiness and do a good deed.

This week’s good deed is about connecting honestly and directly with another human being and acknowledging a positive truth about them. This is a powerful way to help the world. The more we connect the better we all feel which lifts the consciousness of the entire planet.

Let us know what happens this week as you give your surprise compliments.

“Any fool can criticize, condemn, and complain but it takes character and self control to be understanding and forgiving.”  Dale Carnegie

Last week as I was working on my guerrilla good deed to stop complaining, I became acutely aware of how much negativity there is in our world. We are inundated with bad news. The stock market is plummeting. Gas prices are rising. Homes are foreclosing. The Feds are taking over banks. People are losing their retirement. It is all really scary.

Complaining is a common denominator. We can connect on bad news because it is so prevalent. However, complaining about how bad things are is like adding more waste to an already overflowing landfill. It is interesting that there is so much attention given to going green in our homes yet no discussion about going green in our relationships. The mantra of the green movement is reduce, reuse and recycle. Reduce your consumption, reuse what you already have and recycle your waste.

For this Monday Mitzvah let’s focus on the reduce component. And by reduce I mean reducing the negativity in our minds. Let’s reduce our consumption of negativity. Take a week off from the news and allow your mind to detox. I have a family member who watches Fox news 15 hours a day. As a result he thinks we have reached the end of times. It sounds like that when you watch the news. California is on fire; the mid-west is flooded; the artic is melting. Pretty soon we will be able to buy oceanfront property in Reno.

My challenge to you this week is to greenify your mind by not polluting it with any negativity. Just like farmers rotate their crops to allow the soil to mend this week purify your minds with something positive. One strategy for greenifying your mind is to adopt an attitude of gratitude. It may sound trite but it really works. You can’t be negative or fearful and be grateful at the same time. Our minds can’t hold two opposing thoughts. Every time a negative thought, complaint or fear rises up in your mind this week think about what you are grateful for in the situation.

Often things that seem horrible at the time turn out to be blessings in the long run. It is like the old story of the poor farmer who lived alone with his one son. They were poor and lived a hard life. One day their only horse ran away. Their fellow villagers lamented saying, “What will you do now? That was your only horse. How will you farm your land? You are so unlucky.”

To this the poor farmer said, “We’ll see.”

A few days later the farmer’s horse came back bringing with it a wild horse. And the villagers said, “Now you have two horses to work your land. You’re so lucky!”

And the farmer said, “We’ll see.”

The next day the farmer’s son was taming the wild horse when he was thrown from her back and broke his leg. And the villagers said, “Now who will help you work your land? That is your only son. How unlucky!”

And the farmer said, “We’ll see.”

A few days later the army came through town. They were there to draft all the able-bodied young men to fight in a distant war for their emperor. All the young men of the village, except for the poor farmer’s injured boy, were taken away. The villagers watched as their children were taken away. They looked at the poor farmer and his boy and said, “You’re so lucky.”

And the farmer said, “We’ll see.”

And so it goes. Be grateful this week. You never know what is going to turn out to be a blessing in disguise.

“The smallest good deed is better than the grandest good intention.”  Japanese Proverb

This weekend I read an article from the Associated Press on guerrilla gardeners who silently and secretly beautify their cities. Guerrilla gardeners are a global movement of people committed to the “war against the neglect of public space.”  They engage in the illicit cultivation of low maintenance gardens in empty lots or overgrown public spaces. These guerrilla gardeners infiltrate littered freeway off ramps and highway medians like rebel soldiers on a stealth mission. Armed with bags of seeds, shovels and trowels, these warriors transform dead city space into living beauty under the cover of darkness. The movement began as a way to stimulate inner-city renewal but has now spread around the world to cities large and small.

I am inspired by the guerilla gardeners random acts of gardening. Planting a few seeds in a vacant lot, highway median or even a foreclosed property in the neighborhood is a simple yet profound way to help the community. Not only did the simplicity touch me but the fact that they are so highly organized. With “troops” throughout the world members can easily find local “digs.” The members share snaps and stories about their discrete digs and celebrate the transformative results of their midnight missions.

In honor of all the guerilla gardeners out there, this week for the Monday Mitzvah I challenge everyone to do a guerilla good deed. Allow yourself to be surprised by whatever opportunity emerges. Perhaps it will be picking up a piece of trash that happens to catch your eye or sending money to an unfortunate family that grabs your attention on the news. Maybe you will see an elderly neighbor and invite them over to your house for coffee or you will have the opportunity to scatter some seeds in a vacant lot. 

The really fun and interesting part of this challenge will be to see what calls to you. What do you notice? What needs to be done?  As you do your guerrilla good deeds this week share them with us. Respond to this post in the comment section and let us know what you did and how you did it. It will be inspiring to hear everyone’s guerrilla good deeds. Let us know how you found the opportunity and why it spoke to your heart.

This is going to be a great week. I can’t wait to hear from everyone.

If you are interested in helping humanity it is easy to feel a little down after watching the news. After all, it would seem like most of the news on television is usually quite morbid. There is a reason for this: negativity and alarmism is often what drives ratings. Sadly, providing tips on how to make the world a better place little by little just doesn’t sell on cable news. No worries, however, we can provide a few solid tips right here. None of these tips center on anything complicated and they can all be done over the weekend with little effort.

1. Go to a Farmer’s Market. The farm industry is in a mild depression these days and is often reliant on government subsidies. When you purchase directly from a farmer’s market you are putting your money directly in the pocket of the farmers. Plus, you get to walk away with decent organic food as well!

2. Visit the Salvation Army. The Salvation Army shops provide a valuable service providing clothes to those who are disadvantaged. The Salvation Army, however, can not succeed if no one donates clothes. So, why not clear out your closet and give your extra clothes to the Salvation Army. They need your help and you would be doing the community a great service.

3. Donate Old Reading Material. Sadly, many people throw out their old magazines. This is unfortunate because libraries and senior centers would really welcome the donation. If you are an avid reader and have a number of old magazines why not give it to those who would welcome them.

4. Give Blood. There is a reason why there are so many blood drives during the year. This is because there is always a need for blood and blood shortages can prove very problematic. (In cases of natural disasters such shortages are dangerously problematic) As such, donating blood over the weekend would be a huge benefit to humanity. The American Red Cross has many locations which are open on Saturday.

5. Drive peacefully. Yes, sometimes it is the simple things that work the most. Driving safely makes the roads safe and averts accidents. Driving politely and sanely is always a good choice.

What are you doing this weekend to help the world?